A mother’s role as the first institute of education
Umm-e-Milad Attariyyah (Head of Aalami Majlis-e-Mushawarat)
A caravan was on its way from Gilan to Baghdad. As soon as it entered a jungle, a group of robbers appeared and began taking the belongings and goods from the caravan. There was also a young man in the caravan who a robber approached and said: ‘Boy, do you have anything?’ The young man replied: ‘I have forty dinars, which are sewn into my clothes.’ When the robber saw them, he was astonished. He took the young man to his leader and told him everything about the incident. The leader said: ‘People hide their wealth from robbers, but you revealed your wealth without being forced!’ The young man replied: ‘When I left home, my mother made me promise her that I will tell the truth in every situation, and I am upholding that promise.’ The leader said in a state of embarrassment: ‘How fortunate are you to keep the promise you made to your mother, and how cruel am I to break the promise made to my Creator!’ After saying this, the leader, along with his companions, repented with a sincere heart and returned all the stolen property as well. (Bahjah Al-Asraar wa Madan Al-Anwar, p. 167, summarised)
This young man was our beloved spiritual guide, Sayyiduna Ghaus Al-A’zam Shaykh Abdul Qaadir Jilani رَحْمَةُ الـلّٰـهِ عَلَيْه.
Dear Islamic sisters, a mother’s role has a huge influence on children, and the initial nurturing of a mother lasts with a child for the rest of its life.
At an early age, a child's heart is pure, and its mind is like a blank slate that accepts anything which is inscribed on it. A good nurturing at this age makes the child a good person, and a bad nurturing makes the child a bad person. As the famous saying goes: ‘Learning in childhood is like engraving on stone.’ Parents can suffer serious consequences by neglecting their children's education and nurturing at this age.
Remember that children follow the actions of their parents. If parents are lovers of the Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم, adherents of the Shari’ah and eager to learn the religion, then these habits will pass onto their children as well. In such case, children will be a source of honour for the parents in this world and a cause of forgiveness and salvation in the hereafter. Conversely, if the bad habits of parents are passed onto their children, it will be a cause of humiliation and loss in this world and the hereafter. Parents should pay attention to their knowledge and practice; if they adhere to the religion, they will be able to offer their children a religious nurturing in its truest sense.
This was epitomised by the mother of Sayyiduna Ghaus Al-A’zam رَحْمَةُ الـلّٰـهِ عَلَيْه, who would recite Quran so much that he had memorised 18 parts (juz) whilst in her womb. His mother's role is an excellent example for our women. In order to learn how to recite the Quran with Tajweed in the comfort of your home, benefit can be taken from Dawat-e-Islami’s department, Madrasa-tul-Madinah Online.
To learn how to live one’s life according to Islamic values, there is the facility of participating in short online courses and Dars-e-Nizami [Aalimah Course] as well. We should take advantage of these facilities by putting in great effort to acquire religious knowledge so that our upcoming generations, equipped with the teachings of Islam, can gather the provisions to better their life in this world and the hereafter.
Mayri aanay wali naslayn tayray ishq hi mayn machlayn
Unhayn nayk tu banana Madani Madinay walay
May my future generations immerse themselves in your love,
Make them pious, O the one from Madinah!
(Wasail-e-Bakhshish, p. 429)