It is narrated: A man once went to Sayyiduna Umar-e-Farooq-e-A’zam رَضِىَ الـلّٰـهُ عَـنْهُ to complain about his wife. When he arrived at the door, he heard the wife of Ameer-ul-Mu’mineen رَضِىَ الـلّٰـهُ عَـنْهُ conversing in a loud voice. So, he returned and said to himself, ‘Ameer-ul-Mu’mineen رَضِىَ الـلّٰـهُ عَـنْهُ is stuck in this problem himself.’ Afterwards, Ameer-ul-Mu’mineen رَضِىَ الـلّٰـهُ عَـنْهُ asked him why he came (and then returned). He mentioned the entire account, whereupon, Sayyiduna Farooq-e-A’zam رَضِىَ الـلّٰـهُ عَـنْهُ said, ‘I overlook my wife due to some of her rights:

1.   She is a means of saving me from Hell, due to her, my heart is protected from Haraam desires

2.   She protects my wealth when I am absent from my home

3.   She washes my clothes

4.   She raises my children

5.   And she cooks for me.’

He replied, ‘These qualities are also present in my wife, therefore, I will also excuse her from now on.’ (Tanbiyyah-ul-Ghafileen, p. 280, summarised)

Develop a sense of responsibility

3.   Create a sense of responsibility within yourself, and consider the rights of the people your responsibility also; fulfilling the rights of people is the responsibility of every Muslim too. Our pious predecessors رَحِمَهُمُ الـلّٰـه would consider it their own responsibility and would constantly think about it.

The wife of Sayyiduna Umar Bin Abdul Aziz رَحْمَةُ الـلّٰـهِ عَلَيْه states: When Sayyiduna Umar Bin Abdul Aziz رَحْمَةُ الـلّٰـهِ عَلَيْه became the caliph, he رَحْمَةُ الـلّٰـهِ عَلَيْه came home and began to cry on the prayer mat, to such an extent that his beard became wet with tears. Upon my asking, he رَحْمَةُ الـلّٰـهِ عَلَيْه said, ‘The weight of the Prophet’s Ummah has been placed upon my neck. When I think about the hungry, the poor, the sick, the travellers, the elderly, the children, and about all of the grief-