The effects of parental conduct on children
Asif Jahanzayb Attari Madani
Children are a reflection of their parents, as the character and conduct of parents has a direct impact on them. If parents have inappropriate conduct and a negative manner of raising children, then it is the parents who need to be educated first. It is essential for parents to refine their conduct prior to educating their children. In our society, we find that parents differ in their nature. Some of these varying natures are described below:
1. Parents who want their children to excel in everything
Some parents desire for their children to excel in everything. Such parents do not accept anything that falls below their expected standards. Children from such families rarely tend to fulfil their parents’ hopes and wishes.
2. Parents who exceedingly pamper their children
Such parents rarely discipline their children irrespective of what their child does. As a result, such children are perceived in the community as out of control. Moreover, these children rarely tend to differentiate between what is right and wrong. At times, even their parents suffer at the hands of their child’s spoilt conduct.
3. Parents lacking discipline
Parents belonging to this category usually carry out their works in a disorderly manner. Organisation is absent from their lives. This results in their children being stressed and spending their lives without any central focus. Such children also do not get the opportunity to learn from their mistakes.
4. Parents who are irritable and ill-mannered
Some parents appear angry most of the time, resulting in their children longing to receive love. Parents of such nature use anger and violence to get a point across. Consequently, their children may become argumentative and end up becoming detached from their parents.
5. Parents who boast of their favours
Such parents constantly remind their children of the favours they have conferred upon them. If their child makes a mistake, they read out a list of all the good they have done for their child, causing the child to feel like a criminal.
6. Parents who compare their children to others
Those falling under this group often compare their children to others. Whilst referring to the accomplishments of other children, these parents express disappointment at their own child’s lack of success. The outcome of this is that their own child lacks confidence and suffers from an inferiority complex.
7. Parents who impose their will on children
Such parents want their children to do what their parents like. They want their child to pursue a career based on their parents’ wishes and endeavour to navigate their children according to their own desires. Children from such families have their dreams shattered. Moreover, their ability to progress is hindered. These children are often seen complaining about the approach of their parents.
8. Parents who do not encourage their children
Those associated with this category tend to disallow their child to try something new. Parents of such nature persistently rebuke their children and do not praise them upon their achievements. As a result, their children do not fulfil their potential and are seen to be dependent upon others throughout all stages of life.
9. Parents who are exemplary in their approach
These parents are not pessimistic and offer their children encouragement. Furthermore, they allow their children to act independently. Instead of becoming angry and scolding their children for making a mistake, they help their child understand their mistake in a loving manner and adopt this way of bringing them up. This results in such children becoming successful individuals of society who excel in their respective fields.
Dear parents, you should contemplate which category you belong to. If you belong to any of the categories that are associated with negativity, then try and change your approach immediately so that your child does not experience its negative consequences.