Book Name:Pait ka Qufl e Madina
If many people are eating together in the same platter, and the environment is also appropriate, such as the environment of Dawat-e-Islami’s Madanī Qāfilaĥ or that of Jāmi’a-tul-Madīnaĥ - then the Islamic brother or the student of Jāmi’a-tul-Madīnaĥ desiring to apply the Madanī guard to stomach should take his specified amount of food from the platter in his own clay-plate according to Madanī In’āmāt, but should still eat sitting with others. If others resent it, then he should eat with them in their platter. Therefore, the most appropriate method is to specify the number of morsels. For example, if someone is habitual of eating 12 morsels, he can easily eat his specified 12 morsels while sitting with others counting the number of morsels inwardly.
You can mix your food prior to eating
If there are various varieties of food like bread, gravy, rice, samosas etc., it is also possible to take a little quantity of each item and mix all of them together prior to eating. In this way, the flavour of the food may decrease, which will somewhat help in overcoming Nafs but one should be cautious in mixing food in a public gathering. However, if the gathering has been hosted by an Islamic brother of the Madanī environment and it is obvious that mixing the food will not cause resentment in the heart of the host and there is no fear of ostentation as well, then there is no harm in mixing the food. It is better that an Islamic brother ask the host to allow all the guests to eat as they like. If the host grants permission, the guests can eat in any way they prefer. Someone once told me (the author) that he saw a person who took a small portion of various types of food and mixed all of them prior to eating. People expressed surprise at this; he replied that all the food would eventually mix in his stomach, so he had mixed the food beforehand.