Book Name:Shaitan kay baaz hathyar
if someone did not attend the ritual in spite of remembering his promise, it is still not allowed to have a bad suspicion about him because this is not a criterion to declare him to have broken his promise.
The definition of an unfulfilled promise is as follows: ‘To have such an intention, at the time of making the promise, that one would not do what he has said.’ Therefore, if he did not attend the ritual on the ground that his intention of attending it had changed later on, this will not be regarded as an unfulfilled promise. This shows that the possibility of having good assumption about the one who has not attended the ritual despite promising to do cannot be ruled out.
Keep your promise
One who has made a promise should make every possible effort to keep it so that people would not have a negative opinion about him and would not indulge in bad suspicions, false blames, backbiting and degrading him. All Islamic brothers should particularly attend rituals of Īṣāl-e-Šawāb, take part in funerals and offer condolences, reaping rewards. This will close the door of sins, maintain relations and develop affection.
On pages 98 and 99 of the 8th volume of Fatāwā Razawiyyaĥ A’lā Ḥaḍrat رَحْمَةُ اللهِ تَعَالٰی عَلَيْه has stated a Ḥadīš: The greatest wisdom after having belief in Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ is to love people. (Shu’ab-ul-Īmān, vol. 6, pp. 255, Ḥadīš 8061)