In order to adopt politeness, it is very beneficial to make a habit to eat less. Whereas, eating one’s fill leads to laziness in worship and affects your health. Another downfall of this is that eating a full stomach leads to hardheartedness.

Sayyiduna Abdullah Bin Abbas رَضِىَ اللهُ عَـنْهُمَا narrates that the Holy Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم stated: مَنْ شَبِعَ وَ نَامَ قَسٰی قَلْبُہٗ ‘whosoever eats a full stomach and then goes to sleep, he becomes hardhearted.’ He صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم then stated, لِکُلِّ شَیْءٍ زَکَاةٌ وَ زَکَاةُ الْبَدَنِ الْجُوْع for everything there is Zakat and the Zakat of the body is to remain hungry.’ (Ibn Majah, vol. 2, pp. 347, Hadees 1745)

5. Keep good company

One way to adopt politeness is to keep away from bad company and adopt the company of righteous people. Hakeem-ul-Ummat Mufti Ahmad Yar Khan Na’eemi رَحْمَةُ اللهِ عَلَيْه states: ‘As the iron becomes soft and turns into weapons, gold becomes soft and turns into jewellery, and clay becomes soft and turns into a field and garden, flour becomes soft and turns into roti [food], etc., in the same way, the heart of a human becomes soft and then turns into a Wali, a Sufi, an ‘Aarif (someone who recognises Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ), etc. The softness of the heart is a great blessing of Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ, which can be gained through the company of pious people and their pure words.’ (Mirat-ul-Manajih, vol. 7, pp. 2)

6. Become a well-wisher of orphans and poor people

Another way to adopt politeness is to become a well-wisher of orphans and poor people, its persuasion is mentioned in a blessed Hadees:

Sayyiduna Abu Darda رَضِىَ اللهُ عَـنْهُ narrates that ‘once, a person came to the blessed Court of the Holy Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم and complained about his hardheartedness. The Holy Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم asked him, ‘Would you like to soften your heart?’ He humbly answered, ‘yes.’ The Holy Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم then stated, ‘Whenever an orphan comes to you, stroke his