A Message for those who habitually ask unnecessary Questions
From: Shaykh-e-Tareeqat, Ameer-e-Ahl-e-Sunnat, ‘Allamah Maulana Abu Bilal Muhammad Ilyas Attar Qaadiri Razavi دَامَـتْ بَـرَكَـاتُـهُـمُ الْـعَـالِـيَـهْ
اَلْـحَمْـدُ لـِلّٰـه without a need, I do not habitually ask people, ‘How many children do you have?’ ‘What is your profession?’ ‘How much do you earn?’ etc. Sometimes, the one being asked does not like these sorts of questions. This is because if such a person has a low salary, he will feel embarrassed to mention it, and even if he does mention it, the questioner may react by saying, ‘Is that all you earn despite having such and such qualifications and such and such experience?’ On the other hand, if the one being questioned has a high salary, he may feel reluctant to mention it out of fear of the evil eye (the evil eye can certainly have an impact on people, as proven from Hadees).
Some people bore others by asking them questions about how many sons and daughters they have, what their ages are and whether or not they are engaged or married. If they happen to discover that someone’s son or daughter is not married, they will make remarks such as following: ‘What is wrong?’ ‘Why are you not getting them married?’ ‘They’re quite old now.’ ‘Do something about them.’ And if a few months have passed since someone’s marriage, they will ask questions like, ‘Is there any good news yet?’ Women also do not seem to fall behind anyone in asking such questions. May Allah Almighty also grant them sound reasoning.
If someone gets their daughter married off, then the following questions are asked: ‘How much dowry was given?’ ‘What was given in the dowry?’ ‘How much gold was given?’
Upon visiting someone’s home, some people begin to offer their advice without being asked to. They may offer advice on how such and such item should have been placed in a particular place and manner instead of how it is currently placed. Suggestions are also offered in relation to how it would have been better if such and such changes were made to the windows and doors. Sometimes, even offensive comments are made to the host [of a dinner party]. For example, ‘You ought to pay attention to the cleanliness of your home.’ Similarly, any defects or shortcomings found in the carpet, walls, bathroom, etc., are also mentioned.
Generally, an individual who refrains from asking unnecessary questions not only remains stress-free, but also remains safe from hurting other people’s feelings and the sin of lying.
May Allah Almighty grant us all the ability to refrain from useless speech, asking unnecessary questions and engaging in pointless activities. May we also be given the ability to protect others from such unnecessary things.
اٰمِیْن بِجَاہِ النَّبِیِّ الْاَمِیْن صلَّی اللہ علیہ واٰلہٖ وسلَّم
Note: This article was produced based on the content of the Madani Muzakarah that took place on the 24th of Ramadan 1441 AH. It has been presented after its approval by the Ameer-e-Ahl-e-Sunnat دَامَـتْ بَـرَكَـاتُـهُـمُ الْـعَـالِـيَـهْ.