it. Now, either I’ll stay here or this bread.’ The groom immediately went and gave the bread in alms. (Raud-ur-Riyaheen, p. 192, summarised)

صَلُّوۡا عَلَى الۡحَبِيۡب                                                            صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلٰى مُحَمَّد

O devotees of the saints! You have just heard how well the renowned saint of his time, Sayyiduna Shaykh Kirmani رَحْمَةُ الـلّٰـهِ عَلَيْه had nurtured his daughter. His well nurtured daughter had complete trust in Allah Almighty. She did not become upset at the lack of wealth or luxuries in her husband’s house, rather, she complained about him storing bread for Iftar (breaking the fast).

Surely, his daughter had this mindset due to him providing her an Islamic upbringing, as he himself was Allah-fearing and possessed complete trust in Allah Almighty. He gave his daughter an Islamic upbringing and chose a pious worshiper for her marriage so that the blessings of the fear of Allah Almighty and piety can transfer to their children as well. Of course, if a person is pious himself, his children benefit from his good deeds as well.

Sayyiduna Abdullah Ibn-e-Abbas رَضِىَ الـلّٰـهُ عَـنْهُما states: ‘No doubt, Allah Almighty rectifies the child of a person, and the children of that child and so on, due to his good deeds. And, Allah Almighty protects his children and him in his neighbours, and keeps them all veiled and protected. (Durr-e-Mansoor, vol. 5, p. 422, Part 16, under the verse 86)

Dear Islamic brothers, a serious amount of neglect is shown in our society when it comes to the upbringing of children. Perhaps the reason for this is that the parents are not well trained themselves. How can one who is unaware of the rulings of Shari’ah and in need off training himself, train and nurture others?

Therefore, when such parents start receiving proposals for their daughter’s marriage, they prioritise for the guy to be wealthy, possessor of various degrees of worldly education, from a modern family, regardless of him not praying at all, sinning openly, earning Haraam, being known for deceiving people, unaware of the necessary rulings of Islam, and even if he is an embodiment of heedlessness.

Whereas, if somebody advises them to marry their daughter off to a guy whose income maybe less but is a hundred percent Halal, is capable of