صَلُّوۡا عَلَى الۡحَبِيۡب                 صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلٰى مُحَمَّد

Vital aspects of Islamic guidance about parents

Dear Islamic sisters, parents are the great personages whose children mean everything to them. No matter if the children are useless, disobedient or even disabled, they are still the apple of their eyes. But alas! Parents are the helpless members of the society who have been greatly oppressed in every era. Disobedient children forget all the favours of their parents and consider them مَـعَـاذَ الـلّٰـه to be like a gooseberry. They treat their parents even worse than servants. If parents advise their children for their betterment, children stare at them, scold them, taunt them and threaten to expel them from the home. Even now things have become so terrible that in some countries, old People’s homes have been established to look after the parents who have been expelled from their homes and oppressed by their children. In the old people’s home, parents spend their entire life feeling sorrow for the separation from their children and crying in their memory.

Remember! Islam strongly condemns these things. In Islam, very clear guidance has been given in abundance on the respect for parents and fulfilling their rights.  The amount of persuasion and emphasis Islam has put on fulfilling their rights and protecting their honour is sufficient to awaken heedless people to it. Commanding people to treat parents well, Allah Almighty has said in verse 23 and 24 of Surah Bani Israel, part 15:

وَ بِالْوَالِدَیْنِ اِحْسَانًاؕ-اِمَّا یَبْلُغَنَّ عِنْدَكَ الْكِبَرَ اَحَدُهُمَاۤ اَوْ كِلٰهُمَا فَلَا تَقُلْ لَّهُمَاۤ اُفٍّ وَّ لَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَ قُلْ لَّهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِیْمًا(۲۳) وَ اخْفِضْ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ الذُّلِّ مِنَ الرَّحْمَةِ وَ قُلْ رَّبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّیٰنِیْ صَغِیْرًاؕ(۲۴)

And treat parents with goodness; if one of them or both reach old age in front of you, so do not say (even) ‘Ugh’ to them and do not scold them, and speak to them words of respect. And spread for them the arm of humbleness with a