I will not quarrel with you!

On page 362 of ‘Ihya-ul-Uloom’, vol. 3 published by Maktaba-tul-Madinah, the publishing department of Dawat-e-Islami it is stated: Sayyiduna Salim Bin Qutaibah رَحْمَةُ اللهِ تَعَالٰی عَلَيْه has stated: Sayyiduna Bashir Bin Ubaydullah Bin Abu Bakrah رَحْمَةُ اللهِ تَعَالٰی عَلَيْه said while passing by me: Why are you sitting here? I humbly replied: Due to a quarrel that is going on between me and my paternal cousin. He said: There is some favour of your father upon me and I want to do something in return for it. (He then said:) I have not seen anything more than a quarrel that takes a person away from religion, reduces respect, ends pleasure and makes heart busy. Having heard this I stood up to leave, so my paternal cousin asked: What has happened? I replied: I will not quarrel with you. He said: So you have realized that I am right. I said: No, but I want to protect myself from it. He said: I do not ask for anything from you. (He then putting forward to him the thing over which they had a quarrel started, saying): This is yours. (Ihya-ul-‘Uloom, vol. 3, pp. 362) 

نہیں سرکار! ذاتی دشمنی میری کسی سے بھی      مِری ہے نفس و شیطاں سے لڑائی یارسولَ اللہ

صَلُّوۡ اعَلَى الۡحَبِيۡب                                                                   صَلَّى اللّٰهُ تَعَالٰى عَلٰى مُحَمَّد

Dear Islamic sisters! Surely every wise person knows it very well that there is no goodness in picking a fight and quarrel, but rather it has only disadvantages. The disadvantages of fights and quarrels are not limited only to the one who fights, but their disasters also affect those who are related to her. At present, the quarrel between husband and wife is a clear example.

Disadvantages caused by quarrels between husband and wife

Somewhere a husband has a grievance against his wife, so somewhere a wife is sick of her husband. Due to quarrelling everyday not only their life gets disturbed, but its bad effects also start spreading on their children. Children have neither respect for their father nor for mother. One of the biggest reasons for the discord is that husband and wife do not fulfil each other’s rights and make small mistakes the matter of their stubborn egos. A husband wants his