then putting forward to him the thing over which they had a quarrel started, saying): This is yours. (Ihya-ul-‘Uloom, vol. 3, pp. 362) 

صَلُّوۡ اعَلَى الۡحَبِيۡب                  صَلَّى اللّٰهُ تَعَالٰى عَلٰى مُحَمَّد

Dear Islamic brothers! Surely every wise person knows it very well that there is no goodness in picking a fight and quarrel, but rather it has only disadvantages. The disadvantages of fights and quarrels are not limited only to the one who fights, but their disasters also affect those who are related to him. At present, the quarrel between husband and wife is a clear example.

Disadvantages caused by quarrels between husband and wife

Somewhere a husband has a grievance against his wife, so somewhere a wife is sick of her husband. Due to quarrelling everyday not only their life gets disturbed, but its bad effects also start spreading on their children. Children have neither respect for their father nor for mother. One of the biggest reasons for the discord is that husband and wife do not fulfil each other’s rights and make small mistakes the matter of their stubborn egos. A husband wants his wife to live like a maid servant and a wife wants her husband to live with her like an obedient slave etc. Just ponder, when husband and wife develop such bad thoughts, then how will they spend their lives?

Due to the fight between husband and wife the future of their children is at great risk; their mental abilities become rusty. The advice of such parents does not have any effect on their children. Seeing their parents fighting, they also learn how to fight; they pay more attention to fights and quarrels than to their education. In short, the environment of the entire home is ruined due to daily quarrels. Finally, this quarrel leads to divorce. To what extent does the separation between husband and wife gives pleasure to Satan, can be judged by the following blessed Hadees.

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