acts as well as disobedience to Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ. It is not permissible at all for children to support either their mother or father in this way. Both of them are his Paradise and Hell. If he causes trouble to any of them, he will deserve Hell, وَالۡعِيَاذُ بِاللّٰه (We seek protection of Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ). No one can be obeyed by disobeying Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ.

For example, if a mother wants her son to cause a trouble to his father, but he does not do so, i.e. he refuses to treat his father cruelly, and his mother gets displeased with him because of his refusal, then he should let her get displeased and should not listen to her at all in this matter. The same ruling will apply if his father asks him to treat his mother cruelly. Islamic scholars have elaborated that priority should be given to the mother when it comes to looking after [parents], and preference should be given to the father when it comes to respecting them because he has authority and power even over his mother. (Derived from: Fatawa Razawiyyah, vol. 24, pp. 390)

 It has become evident that we should not obey our parents if they order us to do something impermissible. You will become a sinner if you obey them in impermissible matters. For example, if parents ask us to tell a lie, we should not listen to them at all, no matter how much they get displeased. We will not be considered to be disobedient. However, if we obey them in such a matter, we will definitely be considered to be disobedient to Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ.

Similarly, if parents get divorced and the mother tries to prevent children from meeting the father, children must not obey this order of the mother, no matter how much she cries and warns that I will not forgive you at all. Not only will children have to meet the father, but they will also have to look after him. Even though parents are separated but the relationship with children is not cut-off. Both of them still have the same rights over their children. (Samundari Gumbad, pp. 21)

صَلُّوۡ اعَلَى الۡحَبِيۡب                  صَلَّى اللّٰهُ تَعَالٰى عَلٰى مُحَمَّد

‘Home Dars’, one of the 8 Madani activities