left and did not eat anything for three days (due to this grief) and according to another narration, for seven days. (Tanbih-ul-Ghafileen, pp. 89)

Similarly, Sayyiduna Hazm رَحْمَةُ اللهِ تَعَالٰی عَلَيْه said: Sayyiduna Maymoon رَحْمَةُ اللهِ تَعَالٰی عَلَيْه did not commit backbiting against anyone nor did he let anyone commit backbiting before him, but rather if someone tried to do it, he would prevent him. If the person stopped doing it, so it was alright, otherwise, he رَحْمَةُ اللهِ تَعَالٰی عَلَيْه would leave the place. (Hilyat-ul-Awliya, vol. 3, pp. 127, Hadees 3418)

Dear Islamic brothers! Have you noticed! The pious bondmen of Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ do not tolerate at all the disrespect of a Muslim! They even turn away from the gatherings and feasts in which backbiting is committed against Muslims. Have we ever walked out of a gathering in which backbiting is being committed? However, it is important to note here that before walking out one must see if he feels that they will understand what he says and will repent of the sin of backbiting then it will become Wajib for him to prevent them from backbiting. Otherwise, he should protect himself from listening to the backbiting at all cost. Further, if there is no fear of conflict and quarrel, he should leave the gathering.

It is necessary for the person advising others or walking out to have the knowledge to the extent by which he can decide whether or not sinful backbiting is being committed. It has also been understood by this parable that calling someone ‘fat’ or ‘lazy’ in his absence is backbiting. ‘Fat’ and ‘lazy’ are two different words, that is, calling an obese person ‘fat’ in his absence, without any Shar’i permission, is also backbiting. Similarly, without Shar’i permission calling someone lazy, idle, worthless, slack, workshy, useless, ignorant, uncivilized, uneducated, illiterate, silly, dumb, unwise, stupid, senseless, crazy, insane, mental etc. are all examples of backbiting.

مِرے سر پہ عِصیاں کا بار آہ مولٰی!    بڑھا جاتا ہے دم بدم یا الٰہی

زمیں بوجھ سے میرے پھٹتی نہیں ہے           یہ تیرا ہی تو ہے کرم یا الٰہی

صَلُّوۡا عَلَى الۡحَبِيۡب              صَلَّى اللّٰهُ تَعَالٰى عَلٰى مُحَمَّد