us an amulet so that our child obeys us and we can control him’, but dear friends, only amulets do not benefit, good deeds should also be performed. (Islami Zindagi, pp. 29, 30)

مِری آنیوالی نسلیں ترے عشق ہی میں مچلیں

انہیں نیک تو بنانا مدنی مدینے والے

صَلُّوۡا عَلَى الۡحَبِيۡب              صَلَّى اللّٰهُ تَعَالٰى عَلٰى مُحَمَّد

Dear Islamic brothers! It is a fact that man reaps whatever he sows. It does not happen that he sows something else and reaps something else. The same example applies to a child. Parents do not give Islamic upbringing to their children, yet they expect that ‘our children will also become pious, abstinent and obedient; they will become respectable and people of good character in the society.’ When they find the result contrary to what they expect it’s too late. Now if parents want to try to reform them, they cannot. Parents who are sick of their spoiled children if think about the causes of their children being spoilt, they will find their own mistakes. For instance, if a child does not work or becomes lazy in work, takes a day off from his school or coaching centre, or reaches there late, does not study properly, does not agree if asked to go to a particular party or to wear a particular dress, similarly if he attends to other worldly matters with ifs and buts or becomes obstinate, parents take notice of it, scold him and advise him for hours, even sometimes they punish him.

On the other hand, if a child misses his Salah or does not offer it with Jama’at, takes a day off from Madrasah or Jami’ah or reaches there late, keeps in touch with non-Mahrams through the mobile phone, WhatsApp, etc., watches films and dramas, listens to songs and music, adopts new fashions, does not care for Halal and Haraam, drinks wine, plays cards, tells lies, does backbiting, adopts impermissible fashion, gets his beard shaved or gets it trimmed to less than a fist, sits in the company of people of corrupt  belief, spends money in useless activities and becomes involved in many other different types of evils,