Umm-ul-Mu`mineen, Sayyidatuna ‘Aaishah Siddiqah رَضِیَ اللهُ تَعَالٰی عَنْهَا has said: ‘When I used to enter my home in which the Beloved Rasool صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم and my respectable father are resting, I would not take Shawl, thinking that here is my husband and father. Since Sayyiduna ‘Umar Farooq رَضِىَ اللهُ تَعَالٰی عَـنْهُ was laid to rest here, so by Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ! I enter [there] observing purdah feeling shy from him [i.e., Sayyiduna ‘Umar Farooq رَضِىَ اللهُ تَعَالٰی عَـنْهُ].

(Musnad Imam Ahmad, vol. 10. pp. 12, Hadees 25718)

Interpretation of the blessed Hadees

Commenting on the blessed Hadees, a renowned commentator, a great thinker of Ummah, Mufti Ahmad Yar Khan رَحْمَةُ اللهِ تَعَالٰی عَلَيْه has stated: It means as far as the Beloved Rasool صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم and Sayyiduna Abu Bakr Siddeeq رَضِىَ اللهُ تَعَالٰی عَـنْهُ were resting in my Hujrah (room), I used to enter my Hujrah with or without my head being covered, because there is no purdah from husband nor is from father but when Sayyiduna ‘Umar رَضِىَ اللهُ تَعَالٰی عَـنْهُ was laid to rest there, I did not enter my Hujrah without chador (shawl) and complete purdah as I feel shy of Sayyiduna ‘Umar رَضِىَ اللهُ تَعَالٰی عَـنْهُ.

Dear Islamic brothers! Through the above-mentioned blessed Hadees, we have learnt many rulings: Very first Madani pearl is that the person should be respected even after his death. The respected Fuqaha commented: People should show same respect to the deceased souls as they were given in their lifetimes. Second Madani pearl is that the blessed graves of the pious saints رَحِمَهُمُ الـلّٰـهُ تَـعَالٰی should also be given reverence and people should also feel shy of them. Third Madani pearl is that the deceased sees the people standing outside the grave and recognizes them. Look! Sayyidah ‘Aaishah Siddiqah    رَضِیَ اللهُ تَعَالٰی عَنْهَا felt shy of Sayyiduna ‘Umar Farooq رَضِىَ اللهُ تَعَالٰی عَـنْهُ even after his demise, if he رَضِىَ اللهُ تَعَالٰی عَـنْهُ had not been able to see anything outside the grave then what does it mean by feeling shy of him? Fourth Madani pearl is that the soil of grave and plank etc., cannot stand as obstacles for their eyes but the dress of visitor does stand as an obstacle so the visitor does not look undressed otherwise what did it mean by going while wearing chador. This is a Divine law. (Mirat-ul-Manajih, vol. 2, pp. 527)