Sayyiduna Abu Hurayrah رَضِىَ اللهُ تَعَالٰی عَـنْهُ has narrated that the Beloved and Blessed Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم said, ‘The most favourite people to me are those amongst you who are best in manners, soft-hearted, love people and whom people love, and amongst you the most disliked people to me are the backbiters who sow the seeds of discord between two friends and find faults in those people with a righteous character.’

(Majma’-uz-Zawaid, Kitab-ul-Adab, vol. 8, pp. 47, Raqm 12668)

صَلُّوۡا عَلَى الۡحَبِيۡب       صَلَّى اللّٰهُ تَعَالٰى عَلٰى مُحَمَّد

6 Signs of good manners

Dear Islamic brothers! Have you noticed the blessings of having good manners! The person who is good-mannered succeeds in the world and the Hereafter both, whereas the one who is ill-mannered is not liked by anyone. He is considered bad in the world, and in the Hereafter disgraced in his destiny.

Narrating the signs of good manners, Sayyiduna Imam Ghazali عَـلَـیۡـهِ رَحْـمَـةُ الـلّٰـهِ الۡـوَالِی has said: The embodiment of courtesy and politeness is that person who is the most modest, does not harm anyone, performs good deeds, speaks the truth, remains habitually silent, is habitual of practising deeds, prevents himself from mistakes as much as possible, avoids useless talks, is righteous, dignified, tolerant, content with the Will of Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ, thankful, soft-hearted, of pure character, and affectionate. He should not be the one who curses, abuses, backbites, makes haste, bears malice, is not stingy and jealous rather he should be cheerful, and he should love just for the pleasure of Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ and is pleased and displeased with someone for the sake of Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ.

(Ihya-ul-‘Uloom .vol. 3, pp. 86)

Therefore, we should not only refrain from bad deeds and being impolite ourselves but also have good wishes for our Muslims brothers and persuade them to also have excellent manners. To obtain more information about the excellences and blessings of courtesy and politeness, read the 99-page book ‘Husn-e-Akhlaq [Islamic Manners]’, a publication of Maktaba-tul-Madinah.