Rasoolallah صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم! I do not want to get married as I do not have sufficient wealth to fulfil the needs of a woman and secondly, I do not like anything to distract me from you.’ The Beloved Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم avoided me, but then I thought the Beloved Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم knows better than me as to what is better for me in the world and the Hereafter. Now if the Beloved Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم says this to me, I will say, Ok,   Ya Rasoolallah صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم, order me whatever you want.

The third time, when the Beloved Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم said, ‘Rabee’ah, why don’t you get married?’ I humbly said, ‘Why not.’ Then the Holy Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم naming a tribe of the Ansaar, told me to go to them and tell them! The Beloved Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم has sent me to get me married with so-and-so woman. I went and conveyed the message of the Holy Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم to them. They gave me a warm welcome and started saying, ‘The messenger of the Holy Prophet should not return without carrying out his task.’ Then they performed my Nikah with that woman and treated me kindly and did not ask me for any evidence. (Al-Musnad Imam Ahmad Bin Hanbal, vol. 5, pp. 569, Hadees 16577)

Dear Islamic brothers! Have you seen the passion for obeying the Beloved Rasool صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم of the blessed comparisons رَضِىَ الـلّٰـهُ تَعَالٰی عَـنْهُم that they did not ask for any evidence even in a very sensitive matter like marriage and only after hearing the message of the Holy Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم got their girl married to Sayyiduna Rabee’ah رَضِىَ اللهُ تَعَالٰی عَـنْهُ. From this parable, we have learnt that whoever we get our children married to, should be a person who offers their Salah, observes fasts, is pious and practices the Sunnah, irrespective of being poor. But Alas! In our society, only beauty, wealth and worldly status are seen before getting married and such marriages become the cause of destruction. Hence, regarding marriage, special attention must be paid to the character of the person. The Greatest and Holiest Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم has said: The person who performs Nikah with a woman due to her respect, then Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ will increase his insult; the person who performs Nikah due to the greed for a woman’s wealth, Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ will increase his poverty; the person who performs Nikah due to the lineage (family honour) of the woman, Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ will increase his meanness and the person who performs