wedding is very near and his sister says: If you invite that uncle to your wedding, then I will not attend it. In this case, there is a fear of hurting the uncle’s heart and if the uncle is invited, then his sister will be upset. What should Zayd do under these conditions? Should Zayd not invite his uncle after listening to his sister or should Zayd ignore his sister and invite his uncle?

Answering the question, A’la Hadrat رَحْمَةُ اللهِ تَعَالٰی عَلَيْه has said: Zayd’s sister and uncle are both Zi-Rihm Mahrams and ties should not be broken with either one of them. Zayd should try to satisfy his sister however possible, even if he secretly invites his uncle to his wedding by saying this to his sister: I want to do things according to your will, I will not include him. However, I would like to say this one thing: Do not be displeased with me if he comes himself, because he is like our father, even if an uninvited guest arrives to a ceremony, it is ill-mannered to send him back and doing such a terrible thing with one’s own father is out of the question (as a paternal uncle is similar to the father). Therefore, by using such sympathetic mixed sentences, he should convince both and he will earn the reward of this too. As he utters this sentence: ‘I would not invite him’, it implies: ‘I would not go to him personally to give him an invitation, though, I may send somebody else or send him a letter/ message’, And as far as: ‘If he (uncle) comes himself’ implies: ‘He may arrive himself on foot (with his own transport), I will not arrange transport for him.’ Zayd should mean something ambiguous to give both types of circumstances. This kind of ambiguous sentences implies: Such sentences which are false apparently but literally they are true. (This is called ‘توريه’ [Tauriyah] in Arabic).

It is stated in a blessed Hadees: ‘اِنَّ فِي الۡمَعَارِيضِ لَمَنۡدُوحَةً عَنِ الۡكَذِبِ’ i.e., undoubtedly, talking with gestures makes one free from lying.

(As-Sunan-ul-Kubra, vol. 10, pp. 336, Hadees 20843)     

Dear Islamic brothers! Have you seen that Sayyidi A’la Hazrat رَحْمَةُ اللهِ تَعَالٰی عَلَيْه persuaded the questioner to apply ‘Tauriyah’ according to a Shar’i need. Through applying ‘Tauriyah’ according to a Shar’i need, one saves himself from lying, however, there are some specific circumstances to apply ‘Tauriyah’, because without any Shar’i reason, it is impermissible to do so as