It is a fact that all these deeds will be very difficult for our Nafs and Satan will never allow us to reconcile with each other. It will put different types of evil thoughts into our minds, for example, ‘Why should we go to the person who does not like to enter our house or why should we accept the invitation of the person who has turned down our invitation? Why should we go to the person who does not want to attend our ceremonies? Etc. many such evil thoughts will enter the mind, but remember, this is the time of tests, now it is up to us whether we destroy our Hereafter by obeying our Nafs or by forcing our Nafs we act upon the commandments of Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ and His Beloved Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم by making preparations for the Hereafter.

Therefore, muster your courage! Oppose Satan, and with the intention of attaining rewards for maintain kind relationships with relatives, make your firm intention to reconcile with the relatives who are displeased with you.

While mentioning the blessed Ahadees of the Beloved and Blessed Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم, Sayyiduna Abu Hurayrah رَضِىَ اللهُ تَعَالٰی عَـنْهُ once said: Any person who breaks relations must leave our gathering. Listening to this, a young man stood up and went to his paternal aunt, for many years he had an argument with her. After the aunt and the nephew got reconciled, the aunt asked her nephew to go and ask the reason for this (i.e. what was the wisdom behind the announcement made by Sayyiduna Abu Hurayrah رَضِىَ اللهُ تَعَالٰی عَـنْهُ?). Therefore, the young man came and asked its reason. Sayyiduna Abu Hurayrah رَضِىَ اللهُ تَعَالٰی عَـنْهُ replied that he had heard the Beloved and Blessed Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم say, ‘The nation which has any person who severs relations in it, is not blessed with the mercy of Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ.’ (Az-Zawajir ‘Aniqtiraf-il-Kabair, vol. 2, pp.351)

Virtues of maintaining ties with relatives

Let’s listen to 3 sayings of Beloved Mustafa صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم for our persuasion about the excellences of maintaining ties with relatives:

1.         One who wants his sustenance to be increased and death to be delayed should maintain kind relations with relatives.

 (Sahih Bukhari, vol. 4, pp. 97, Hadees 5985)