Even if our relative has not deliberately met us because of laziness or any other reason or has not invited us or has openly mistreated us, we should still maintain ties with him, showing tolerance. Sayyiduna Ubayy Bin Ka’b رَضِىَ اللهُ تَعَالٰی عَـنْهُ has narrated that the Prophet of Rahmah صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم has stated: One who wants a palace to be built for him (in Paradise) and his ranks to be raised should forgive the one who oppresses him, give [something suitable] to one who deprives him and keep relations with one who breaks off relations with him. (Al-Mustadrak lil-Haakim, vol. 3, pp. 12, Hadees 3215)

صَلُّوۡا عَلَى الۡحَبِيۡب       صَلَّى اللّٰهُ تَعَالٰى عَلٰى مُحَمَّد

Dear Islamic brothers! At times, minor mistakes, committed by them become a cause of severing ties with the relatives. If any of our relatives say something mistakenly or does something that hurts our feelings, then we fall prey to the tricks of the Nafs and Satan and stop talking, dealing with them and sever ties with them. We intend to destroy and boycott him forever. Now if that person pleads with us or repeatedly asks for forgiveness, we are not ready to forgive him. Furthermore, if someone wants to advise us, we silence him. The Beloved and Blessed Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم has forbidden us to have hatred and jealousy for each other, to break relations and to reject the apology of those who apologize to us.

The Beloved and Blessed Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم has narrated in a Hadees: ‘وَمَنۡ اعۡتَذَرَ اِلٰي اَخِيۡه الۡمُسۡلِمِ مِنۡ شَيءٍ بَلَغَهُ عَنۡه فَلَمۡ يَقۡبِلۡ عُذۡرَه لَمۡ يَرِدۡ عَلي الۡحَوۡضِ’ ‘Whoever seeks forgiveness from his Muslim brother, and that brother [without any valid Shar’i reason] does not accept the apology, he (the one who rejects) will not be blessed to go to the Hawd-e-Kawsar^[1].’

(Al-Mu’jam-ul-Awsat, vol. 4, pp. 376, Hadees 6295)

صَلُّوۡا عَلَى الۡحَبِيۡب           صَلَّى اللّٰهُ تَعَالٰى عَلٰى مُحَمَّد