said, ‘Then other people would never tolerate such a shameful act with their mothers.’ Then the Noblest Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم asked him, ‘If the same act is done with your daughter. Will you like it?’ He humbly said, ‘No’. The Noblest Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم said, ‘If anybody commits such a shameful act with your sister then? And if with your aunt then?’

In the same way, the Noblest Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم asked about every relation and he kept refusing and people did not grant their consent either. Then the Noblest Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم placed his blessed hand on his heart and supplicated to Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ: O Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ! Purify his heart, save his private parts and forgive his sins, after that incident, he had hatred towards adultery his whole life. (Al-Musnad Imam Ahmad, vol. 8, pp. 285, Raqm 22274)

اِجابت نے جُھک کر گلے سے لگایا              بڑھی ناز سے جب دُعائے مُحَمَّد

اِجابت کا سہرا عنایت کا جوڑا                     دُلہن بن کے نِکلی دُعائے مُحَمَّد

Dear Islamic brothers! You have just heard how lovingly and affectionately our Beloved Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم made individual efforts and reformed that young man in a most pleasant manner for preventing him from evils. Therefore, adopting an effective strategy one who presents the call towards righteousness, should show tolerance because the thing which can be done by being gentle cannot be done by losing the temper. As far as the preacher is concerned, he should be softer than wax and cooler than ice. To reform someone by scolding them is very difficult. If only we could also make efforts to help a person who is committing sins, being heedless of Salahs, committing the sins of speaking lies, backbiting, tale-telling, tormenting the heart of Muslims etc., to give up committing sins instead of criticizing him unnecessarily in his absence and by speaking ill of him, thereby committing the sins of backbiting! If only we could get the treasure of rewards of the Hereafter by making him understand with extreme gentleness and love! With sincere intentions if we advise somebody, اِنْ شَــآءَالـلّٰـه عَزَّوَجَلَّ, we will receive its benefits.

Dear Islamic brothers! Listen to a few ways and treatments to have forbearance and giving up the bad habit of losing the temper and try to act upon them: