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How to Develop Gentleness
company of the pious. Mufti Aḥmad Yār Khan NaꜤīmī رَحْمَةُ الـلّٰـهِ عَـلَيْه states:
Just as iron becomes soft and turns into tools, gold softens and becomes jewellery, soil softens and produces crops, and flour softens to become bread, likewise, when the heart becomes soft, a person becomes a Walī, a Sufi, and an ꜤĀrif (one who recognises Allah Almighty). Softness of the heart is a great blessing of Allah Almighty, and this is gained through the company of the saints and their pure words.[1]
6. Show kindness to orphans and the poor!
One prescription for softening the heart is to show kindness to orphans and the needy. A man once complained to the noble Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم about the hardness of his heart. The beloved Prophetصَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم said, “Do you wish your heart to become soft?”
He replied, “Yes.”
The beloved Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم declared, “When an orphan comes to you, place your hand upon his head and feed him from your food. Your heart will soften, and your needs will be fulfilled.”[2]
7. Reflect upon the harms of a hardened heart!
The curse of a hard heart is that guidance has no effect upon it, it does not incline towards good deeds, and it leads to the displeasure and curse of Allah Almighty. The fourth Caliph of Islam, Sayyidunā ꜤAlī b. Abī Ṭālib رَضِىَ اللّٰهُ عَـنْهُ narrates that the beloved Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم said:
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- Virtue of Ṣalāt upon the beloved Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم
- How to Develop Gentleness
- Speech intentions
- The acceptance of Islam by a scholar of the Torah
- A glimpse of divine mercy
- Virtues of gentleness
- Importance of gentleness
- Kind words
- Gentle speech
- A display of self-control
- Encouragement for Pious Deed No. 14
- 1. Awake from heedlessness!
- 2. Declare war against sins!
- 3. Make forgiveness a habit!
- 4. Eat less!
- 5. Choose good company!
- 6. Show kindness to orphans and the poor!
- 7. Reflect upon the harms of a hardened heart!
- Sunnahs and Etiquettes of Walking
- Announcement:
- 2. All sins forgiven
- The 6 Duroods and 2 Du’as that are recited in the Sunnah-inspiring weekly Ijtima’ (congregation) of Dawat-e-Islami:
- 1. The Durood for the night preceding Friday
- 3. 70 Portals of mercy
- 4. The reward of 600,000 Duroods
- 5. Nearness to the Distinguished Rasool صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم
- 6. Durood-e-Shafa’at
- 1. Good deeds for 1000 days
- 2. An easy way to spend every night in worship
- Remaining sunan and etiquettes of walking
- Schedule for the Halqahs [learning circles] of the weekly Ijtima’ (overseas), 6 November 2025
- Supplication for when looking in the mirror
- Method of collective accountability (72 Pious Deeds)
- Method of collective accountability (72 pious deeds) daily 56 pious deeds
- Record of qufl-e-Madinah
- Ten weekly pious deeds
- Three monthly pious deeds
- One yearly pious deed
- Two lifetime pious deeds
