Method of thinking good of others

Dear Islamic brothers! The above-mentioned 7 rulings are worthy of great attention, especially the 7^thruling where ‘giving in return’ has been mentioned. Nowadays, we see this happening a lot. If a relative invites someone to his wedding, only then will he invite him to his, otherwise he won’t invite him either. If he has invited more people from his family and he in return invites less people from his family, then this will not be taken lightly and a lot of criticism and backbiting will take place. Unfortunately, because we are far away from the knowledge of Deen, this environment has become common that even when giving and taking, people adopt the same mentality that whatever he gives us, we will give the same amount to them. Some foolish relatives even go to the extent of not participating in funerals or going to one another’s homes at times of happiness and sadness; simply because of small things, they become enemies.

Similarly, if a relative does not invite someone to an occasion, then he will boycott them and like this, they fall further apart from one another. Whereas, if someone does not attend an occasion, many positive aspects can be taken for him. For example, perhaps he was ill, perhaps he forgot, perhaps something important came up or perhaps he was helpless and it was difficult for him to explain it, etc. Whether he tells the reason of his absence or not, we should think good of him to earn reward and gather good deeds that will help us to enter paradise. The Holy Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم has stated: حُسْنُ الظَّنِّ مِن حُسْنِ الْعِبَادَۃِ i.e. thinking good is from the best form of worship.

(Abu Dawood, vol. 4, pp. 388, Hadees 4993)

Mufti Ahmad Yar Khan Na’eemi رَحْمَةُ اللهِ عَلَيْه takes many meanings from this Hadees and writes: Thinking good about Muslims and not having evil presumptions about them is also a worship among the good forms of worship. (Mirat-ul-Manajih, vol. 6, pp. 621)

He will gain a palace in Paradise

If, for arguments sake, one of our relative does not come to our house due to laziness, some other reason or by purpose, or does not call us to his ceremony, rather, even if he treats us in a bad manner openly, even then we