وَ لَا یَاْتَلِ اُولُوا الْفَضْلِ مِنْكُمْ وَ السَّعَةِ اَنْ یُّؤْتُوْۤا اُولِی الْقُرْبٰى وَ الْمَسٰكِیْنَ وَ الْمُهٰجِرِیْنَ فِیْ سَبِیْلِ اللّٰهِ ﳚ-وَ لْیَعْفُوْا وَ لْیَصْفَحُوْاؕ-اَلَا تُحِبُّوْنَ اَنْ یَّغْفِرَ اللّٰهُ لَكُمْؕ-وَ اللّٰهُ غَفُوْرٌ رَّحِیْمٌ(۲۲)

Translation from Kanz-ul-Iman: And those amongst you who possess excellence and have capacity, should not take oath (in not) giving to the relatives and the needy, and the emigrants in the path of Allah. And they should forgive and overlook, do you not like that Allah may forgive you? And Allah is Most Forgiving, Ever Merciful.

The famous commentator of the Holy Quran, Mufti Sayyid Muhammad Na’eem-ud-din Muradabadi رَحْمَةُ اللهِ عَلَيْه writes under this verse: When the Holy Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم recited this verse, then Sayyiduna Siddeeq-e-Akbar رَضِىَ اللهُ عَـنْهُ said: No doubt, I wish that Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ forgives me and I will never stop my action that I used to do for Mistah. Therefore, Sayyiduna Siddeeq-e-Akbar رَضِىَ اللهُ عَـنْهُ continued this financial support once again.

He further writes: This verse proves the superiority of Sayyiduna Siddeeq-e-Akbar رَضِىَ اللهُ عَـنْهُ. It reveals the greatness of his status as Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ mentioned Siddeeq-e-Akbar to be the possessor of virtue in the Holy Quran. (Khaza’in-ul-Irfan, pp. 653)

Dear Islamic brothers! Where this verse informs us of the status and rank of Sayyiduna Siddeeq-e-Akbar رَضِىَ اللهُ عَـنْهُ, we also find out that it is a great act of nobility to financially help your poor and needy relatives. No matter how any of our relatives treat us, we should always continue performing our good deed.

1. Which relative should be treated how?

Dear Islamic brothers! As the type of relationship changes, the level of treating our relatives nicely will also change. The highest rank among our relationships is our parents’. Then it is those people in our family to whom marriage is Haraam forever due to being related to them. After them, it will be the remaining relatives who will deserve good conduct according to the level of their relationship. (Rad-dul-Muhtar, vol. 9, pp. 678; summarised)