2. Ways of treating relatives well

Remember! There are different ways of treating relatives well. Giving them presents and gifts, helping them if they need help in any lawful act, saying salaam to them, going to meet them, sitting with them, talking to them and treating them with a polite and kind manner. (Kitab-ud-Durar, vol. 1, pp. 323)

3. Write letters to them if you are abroad

If a person is abroad, he should write letters to his relatives. He should keep in touch with them so that the connection between them is not cut off. If possible, he should come back to his home country and meet his relatives to freshen his relations with them. Like this, the love between them will increase. (Rad-dul-Muhtar, vol. 9, pp. 678)

(Contact via mobile phone and internet is also beneficial. In this era of technology, it has become very easy to contact one another. No matter where in the world you are, you can be connected)

4. If you are abroad and your parents call you, you will have to come

If someone is abroad and his parents call him, then he will have to come back. Writing a letter (emailing, calling or contacting through the internet) will not suffice. Likewise, if parents need him to serve them, he must come back and serve them. After the father, the grandfather and elder brother hold the highest status as the elder brother is a substitute of the father. The elder sister and (paternal) aunt are a substitute of the mother. Some scholars have said that the uncle (father’s younger brother) is like the father and this can also be deduced from the following Hadees: عَمُّ الرَّجُلِ صِنْوُ اَبِـیْہِ (i.e. a person’s uncle is like his father). Other than these people, writing a letter or sending a gift to other people will suffice. (Rad-dul-Muhtar, vol. 9, pp. 678)

5. Which relative should be met when?

One should meet relatives at regular intervals. For example, meet them one day and do not meet them the next as this increases love and affection. Rather, one should meet relatives every Friday or once a month, and the