Sunnah, offer Salah, are religious, or because the boy has a beard, or because he is associated with a certain language or culture should take heed from the aforementioned account. Let us listen to some points in regard to this from the Muharram-ul-Haraam 1439 AH issue of the Monthly Magazine: Faizan-e-Madinah:

Why is finding potential suitors difficult?

It is written in the Monthly Magazine: Faizan-e-Madinah: Many incorrect approaches are adopted when searching for suitors; it is usually the wish of the boy’s family that:

1.   The potential spouse should be the daughter of a rich father

2.   And it is even better if she is an only child

3.   Her brothers should occupy high posts in the government

4.   The boy should have a good job or a highly successful business

5.   They should be given a house or a plot

6.   The daughter-in-law’s father should start a business for his son-in-law

7.   The girl should be working a good job, etc.

If we were to ponder, we will come to realise that all of this entails looking towards other’s wealth with greed; and just as the Shari’ah has condemned this, it has also informed us how to become dear to the hearts of everyone by turning away from the wealth of people. Hence, the Beloved Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم said, ‘Turn away from the world, you will become the beloveds of Allah Almighty, and have no desire for what the people have (of worldly wealth and possessions), and you will become beloved to the people.’ (Attargheeb Wattarheeb, vol. 4, p. 74, Hadith 4918)

Similarly, the girl’s family often has certain wishes too, such as: