*   (Remember!) The parents themselves sometimes play a role in making children disobedient and rebellious; this is because the majority of parents have not been nurtured properly themselves, which is why they cannot raise their children in a correct manner.

*   It is foolish to rebuke children over every matter, as children become rebellious like this. Therefore, instead of scolding them constantly, treat them with love.

*   Constantly shaming children in front of others causes their small hearts to become rebellious.

*   Do not complain about your children in their presence to respected individuals, for example, by saying, ‘Tell him off, he causes a lot of trouble, he is very mischievous, he does not listen to his parents,’ etc.; this is foolishness, and instead of rectifying the child, the child will think, ‘My parents disgraced me in front of so-and-so!’ And the reality is that telling off someone in front of another person is disgracing him.

*   Sayyiduna Abu Darda رَضِىَ الـلّٰـهُ عَـنْهُ states: The one who advised his brother in front of everyone, disgraced him, and the one who advised in private, has been sincere with him. (Tanbih-ul-Ghafileen, p. 49) Therefore, it is better not to mention the child’s misbehaviour in front of others and mention the good you see in him instead. This will encourage the child and he will strive to become even better. However, in order to scare him, from time-to-time, there is no harm in telling the child that you will discipline him in front of everyone if he makes the same mistake again. (Madani Muzakarah, Cassette Number 45-13)

Announcement

The remaining Sunnahs and etiquettes of raising children will be mentioned in the study circles. Therefore, make sure to take part in the study circles to learn about them.

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