Book Name:Bahan Bhaiyon Ke Sath Husne Sulook
Islamic scholars of Makkah Mukaramma, they replied: At midnight, go to Zamzam well and look into it and then call out the deceased person by his name. If he is amongst the blessed inhabitants, he will reply when you call him out first time. He went and called out in it, but no one gave him a reply. He returned and told the Islamic scholars about it. They recited اِنَّا لِلہِ وَ اِنَّاۤ اِلَیۡہِ رٰجِعُوۡن and said: We are afraid that your friend will be amongst the Hell dwellers. Now you go to Yemen where there is a well Barhoot. It is narrated that it [this well] is at the mouth of Hell. Go there at night and call out: O so-and-so! He will reply to your call. He went to Yemen and asked people about the well so he was guided to the well. He went there at night and called out: O so-and-so! Hence his friend replied to his call. He asked: Where are my dinars? He replied: I buried them at such-and-such place at my home and I did not inform my children about them. Go to them; when you dig a pit there you will get your money. He then asked: What has brought you here though I had good opinion of you? He replied: I had a poor sister whom I had left and I did not treat her kindly. Allah Almighty has punished me for this reason and got me in this state. (Tanbeeh-ul-Ghafileen, pp. 72)
Dear Islamic brothers! You must have noticed how the one who broke off relations with his sister and did not treat her kindly was made to suffer a severe torment in the abovementioned parable because the one who breaks off relations will not enter Paradise. The Beloved Rasool صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم has said: The one who breaks off relations will not enter Paradise.
(Muslim, pp. 1062, Hadees 6520)
Remember! Good manners are extremely necessary for the survival of a strong and happy family. The best way of it is that parents should not become negligent even a bit in the upbringing of their children from their childhood and give them such Madani Tarbiyat regarding good manners, sociability, affection and love with one another that everyone praises their children by saying that they are very well-mannered because they say Salam and shake hands with everyone, talk smilingly and get ready happily for every task. Remember! Children follow the upbringing and footsteps of their parents. If parents do not meet their siblings and relatives, do not treat them