Book Name:Maraz Se Qabr Tak
Probably, in 1416 AH on a Thursday of the holy month of Ramadan, I went to Hyderabad to meet a friend of mine who took me to Dawat-e-Islami’s weekly Sunnah-inspiring Ijtima’ where we heard Ameer-e-Ahl-e-Sunnat Maulana Ilyas Qaadiri’s speech live relayed by telephone from Bab-ul-Madinah Karachi. As I listened to the speech, a Madani transformation took place in my life. Overcome by divine fear, I tearfully repented of my sins. Since then, I joined the Madani environment of Dawat-e-Islami for good. اَلْـحَمْـدُ لـِلّٰـه عَزَّوَجَلَّ, I also adorned my face with a fist-length beard as a result of the individual effort of an Islamic brother of ‘Attarabad.’
صَلُّوۡا عَلَى الۡحَبِيۡب صَلَّى اللّٰهُ تَعَالٰى عَلٰى مُحَمَّد
Dear Islamic brothers! If somebody dies, so on this occasion, many acts contrary to Shari’ah are committed sometimes. One of them is lamentation [نَوحَہ], i.e. to weep loudly by exaggerating the attributes of the deceased. It is also called wail [بَین]. There is a consensus that it is Haraam. Similarly, bewailing, crying loudly saying ‘Oh! Woe’, tearing the front upper part [of the shirt etc.], scratching face, untying [the braid of] hair, putting dust on the head, beating chest, beating thighs are all acts of ignorance and are Haraam. It is prohibited to weep with a loud voice; however, there is no prohibition if the sound does not get loud. (Bahar-e-Shari’at, vol. 1, pp. 854, 855)
Sometimes while weeping over the death of a person, people become extremely impatient and start making complaints to Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ and by committing such acts they utter statement of un-belief which destroys their faith.
On the occasion of someone’s death, one of the non-Shar’i acts is to mourn for more than three days, which is Haraam. Before the advent of Islam in Arab, a widow used to live in a bad house, wear a bad dress and live separately from entire family members for a year after the death of her husband. (Mirat-ul-Manajih, vol. 5, pp. 151) Thus, she used to mourn for a year, but