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Maintaining ties with relatives
The Messenger of Allah صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم said, “By Allah, if anyone of you takes an oath to harm his family, he commits a greater sin according to Allah than that of dissolving his oath and making expiation for it.”[1]
The renowned commentator, Mufti Aḥmad Yār Khān رَحْمَةُ الـلّٰـهِ عَلَيْه once again offers his expert insight:
It is sinful for an individual to carry out an oath which infringes the rights of his relatives. For example, if he vows to not serve his mother or not speak with his parents. It is necessarily binding (wājib) for him to break such an oath and fulfil their rights.
In this regard, it is not sinful to dissolve such an oath. Carrying it out and implementing it would incur sin for the doer. Fulfilling these oaths is a grave sin in essence, and to not fulfil them is an act of reward. This is despite the fact the name of Allah was not given its due esteem by dissolving an oath taken upon His name. Due to this shortcoming in showing respect to the name of Allah, expiation becomes necessary. Not breaking this oath at all would lead to steep sin.[2]
Definition of صِلَهٔ رِحۡمي - good conduct with relatives
Dear Islamic brothers, let us now focus on the term صِلَهٔ رِحۡمي. The word صِلَهٔ (ṣilah) is defined as: اِيۡصَالُ نَوۡعٍ مِّنۡ اَنۡوَاعِ الۡاِحۡسَانِ - all forms of kindness and favour.[3] The word رِحۡم (riḥm) denotes family ties and relationship.[4]
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- Excellence of sending salat upon the Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم
- Maintaining ties with relatives
- Pain caused by a relative
- Quranic commandment for maintaining ties with relatives
- Break the oath!
- Biggest sin
- Definition of صِلَهٔ رِحۡمي - good conduct with relatives
- Strengthen relationships with relatives
- Reality of maintaining ties
- Virtues of maintaining ties with relatives
- Ten virtues of maintaining a good relationship with relatives
- Evil suspicion is a cause of severing ties with relatives
- Excellence of having good opinions
- Become brothers of one another
- Living under the same roof, yet upset with one another
- Encouragement to act upon Pious Deed number 61
- Those who sever relations with you, join ties with hem!
- Keeping good ties with family has become a burden for some
- Punishment for severing ties
- Dawat-e-Islami’s Amity Department
- Rights of younger siblings upon their elder siblings
- Rights of elder siblings upon their younger siblings
- A reply full of wisdom
- Sunnah and etiquette of visiting a graveyard
