Allah Almighty grant all Muslims sound intellect and give them the ability to save themselves and others from indulging in useless and immoral works. (Madani Muzakarah Qist.9 Yaqeen-e-Kamil ki Barakatayn, pp. 25-26)

صَلُّوۡا عَلَى الۡحَبِيۡب                 صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلٰى مُحَمَّد

Dear Islamic sisters! There are many customary practices that take place on the occasion of marriage. Every area, every group and every family have their own customs. As these traditions are carried out merely based on the custom of the people, and nobody considers them to be Fard or Wajib, they cannot be considered unlawful (Haraam) or impermissible as long as they do not oppose the Shar’'ah. Just as Sadr-ush-Shari’ah, ‘Allamah Maulana Mufti Amjad Ali A’zami رَحْمَةُ الـلّٰـهِ عَلَيْه states: customs can be followed as long as it does not result in committing an unlawful action, however, some people are so adamant that they will end up carrying out an impermissible action, but they will not leave the custom. For example, the girl is young and one does not have the wealth to carry out the custom, instead of leaving the custom and performing the Nikah, they are prepared to even involve themselves in the accursed act of taking interest. (Bahar-e-Shari’at, vol. 3, pp. 104, summarised)

Is this a wedding or an announcement of war?

He further writes: some consider dancing and music such an important matter, at the time of fixing the marriage, they stipulate that dancing must take place otherwise we will not carry out the marriage. However, the parents of the girl do not realise that avoiding spending unnecessarily could lead to that money being used in a beneficial manner by their own children. Just for momentary happiness, they will do all of this, but do not