Dear Islamic sisters! It is a fact that a good upbringing of parents makes children good and a bad upbringing makes them bad. One shall never be lazy in relation to the Madani upbringing of children. Those parents who do not bring their children up in a good manner have to face disgrace and humility. Therefore, while proving to be good parents, teach your children the love of the Holy Quran and to act upon its commandments. May Allah Almighty enable parents to bring their children up according to Shari’ah.

Our righteous predecessors رَحِمَهُمُ الـلّٰـهُ تَـعَالٰی used to bring their children up according to the Islamic teachings. Let us listen to a faith-refreshing parable of a pious father and his well brought up daughter.

Well brought up daughter of Shaykh Kirmaani

Sayyiduna Shaykh Kirmaani رَحْمَةُ اللهِ تَعَالٰی عَلَيْه was a righteous individual. His daughter was good looking as well as possessed a noble character. When she got to the age of getting married, a marriage proposal came for her from the royal court. Sayyiduna Shaykh Kirmaani رَحْمَةُ اللهِ تَعَالٰی عَلَيْه asked for a time of three (3) days and started looking for a pious young man by visiting every Masjid. He رَحْمَةُ اللهِ تَعَالٰی عَلَيْه came across a young man who offered his Salah properly. Shaykh Kirmaani رَحْمَةُ اللهِ تَعَالٰی عَلَيْه asked him: ‘Are you married?’ He replied: ‘No’.

Then he رَحْمَةُ اللهِ تَعَالٰی عَلَيْه asked: ‘Do you want to get married? The girl recites the Holy Quran and punctually observes Siyam and offers Salah. She is beautiful and possesses a noble character.’ He said: ‘Who will marry his daughter to me?’ Sayyiduna Shaykh Kirmaani رَحْمَةُ اللهِ تَعَالٰی عَلَيْه said: ‘I will. Here, keep some Dirhams. Buy a roti [loaf of bread] for one dirham, curry for one dirham and fragrance for one dirham.’ 

This is how Sayyiduna Shaykh Kirmaani رَحْمَةُ اللهِ تَعَالٰی عَلَيْه got his pious daughter married to that young man. When the bride came to the house of the groom, she saw a dry roti placed over the water vessel.

She asked: ‘What is this roti for?’ The groom replied: ‘This is the stale roti of yesterday that I kept for [today’s] Iftar.’ Listening to it, the bride intended to