bride replied: ‘Your excuse is with you. However, I cannot stay in a house where food for next meal is stored. Now, either I will stay here or this roti.’ The groom instantly gave that roti in charity. (Raud-ur-Riyaheen, pp. 192)

صَلُّوۡا عَلَى الۡحَبِيۡب    صَلَّى اللّٰهُ تَعَالٰى عَلٰى مُحَمَّد

O devotees of Awliya! You have heard that how beautifully the renowned Islamic saint of his time, Sayyiduna Shaykh Kirmaani رَحْمَةُ اللهِ تَعَالٰی عَلَيْه brought his daughter up. His daughter, who was beautifully brought up by him, had absolute trust in Allah Almighty. She did not get upset due to not having adequate facilities or abundance of wealth in her husband’s house, but if she did complain, it was for the fact that why was a roti saved for Iftar?

Undoubtedly, she would have been blessed with such Madani mind-set due to the Madani upbringing of Sayyiduna Shaykh Kirmaani رَحْمَةُ اللهِ تَعَالٰی عَلَيْه who himself too was a righteous saint having absolute trust in Allah Almighty. He رَحْمَةُ اللهِ تَعَالٰی عَلَيْه provided a Madani upbringing to his daughter and chose a pious match for her so that their future generations could also attain the blessings of piety and abstinence. Indeed, if a person is pious himself, then his future generations also benefit from his piety.

Dear Islamic brothers! Extreme heedlessness is observed in our society in terms of the upbringing of children. Perhaps, the reason for this is that the parents themselves lack the knowledge of bringing children up. How can one bring others up when he himself is unaware of Shar’i rulings and needs to learn how to bring others up?

Therefore, when such parents start getting marriage proposals for their daughters, their priority is that the boy should be rich, degree holder of different worldly arts and sciences and belongs to a modern family. No matter even if he does not offer a single Salah, commits sins openly, earns Haraam livelihood, is known for cheating people, does not even know the fundamental Shar’i rulings; in short, he does not act upon the Islamic teachings.

Whereas, if someone suggests marrying the daughter to someone whose income might be less but is 100% Halal, who is capable of fulfilling the rights