the very reason that the standards for bringing up children have become such that if the child does not do any work, takes a day off from school or observes laziness in this matter, if he does not agree to go to a certain function or wear a specific dress or shoes, or gives some reasoning not to do some worldly activity, then parents really take its notice. He is severely scolded over it. He is shouted at for hours for it. At the same time, if the same child misses his Salah or does not offer Salah with Jama’at, takes a day off from Madrasah or Jami’ah or goes there late, wanders around the whole night, establishes unlawful relationships with non-Mahrams through mobile and social media, misuses his mobile phone or internet, falls prey to sinful love, watches films and dramas, listens to songs and music, adopts new and latest fashions, does not care about Halal and Haraam, consumes alcohol, gambles, lies, backbites, gives and takes bribery, adopts impermissible fashions, sits in the company of people with corrupt beliefs, wastes money in useless activities, in short, he is indulged in various types of evils, then let alone talking about them, the father does not even bother over them. It is also commonly observed that even if someone reforms them, then the father says: ‘He is still a child’, ‘he is naïve’, ‘he will gradually understand’, ‘you shall not be that harsh on the kids either’, etc.

The same child who is deprived of an Islamic upbringing, given extra love and leniency by the parents, when he becomes a means of disgrace for the father, family and the society, then he stares in the eyes of the father if he scolds him or does not give him money, shouts at the father or even beats up the father. Then at that time, the father recalls the pieces of advice given to him by his well-wishers. Now the father grieves over his child’s reformation, makes Du’as and gets others to make Du’as but all this goes in vain. It’s too late by then and he can do nothing except regret. Just due to slight carelessness of parents, a precious pearl gets wasted.

Let us listen to two admonitory parables regarding what a father faces due to not providing Madani upbringing to children and giving them too much love and leniency. Moreover, make the intention of providing your children with an Islamic upbringing.