importance to our parents, remember their favours, avoid the things which are against their mood, look after them in every way, treat them well, fulfil their permissible needs, obey every permissible order of theirs, especially when they have grown old. In the old age, they need more sympathies from their children because their body parts do not work properly; body suffers from diseases; and even relatives become strangers. The old age of parents puts a person to the test. Most of the time, in the old age, they develop several diseases related to defecation and passing of urine, due to which usually their children get sick of them.

But remember! It is a must for children to look after their parents even under these conditions. In childhood, the mother also looks after children and keeps them clean when they wet (their bed) and defecate. Therefore, even if they get extremely irritable and quarrelsome due to their old age and diseases, children still have to be patient, patient and nothing but patient, treating them with respect is necessary. Yes! This is the very test. They should not even say ‘uff’ to them, let alone being rude to them and shouting at them or else they may suffer a great loss and be destroyed in the world and in the Hereafter both. The one who hurts the feelings of his parents is humiliated and disgraced in the world and also deserves torment of the Hereafter.

Consequence of the one who speaks ill of parents

Sayyiduna Imam Ahmad Bin Hajar Makki Shafi’i رَحْمَةُ اللهِ تَعَالٰی عَلَيْه has narrated: The Beloved Rasool صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم has said: ‘On the night of Mi’raj, I saw some people who were hanging on the branches of fire. So I asked, ‘O Jibrael, who are these people?’ He humbly replied, ‘These are the people who used to speak ill of their fathers and mothers in the world.’ (Az-Zawajir ‘Aniqtiraf-il-Kabair, vol. 2, pp. 139)

Grave breaks ribs

It is narrated, ‘When the one, who disobeys his parents, is buried, the grave presses him to the extent that his ribs penetrate into each other (after breaking). (Az-Zawajir ‘Aniqtiraf-il-Kabair, vol. 2, pp. 140)