Messages of Ameer-e-Ahl-e-Sunnat
Avoid discussing ultra-personal ailments
Whilst consoling an ill Islamic brother, Shaykh-e-Tareeqat, Ameer-e-Ahl-e-Sunnat, ‘Allamah Muhammad Ilyas Attar Qadiri Razavi دَامَـتْ بَـرَكَـاتُـهُـمُ الْـعَـالِـيَـهْ said:
نَحْمَدُہٗ وَنُصَلِّیْ وَنُسَلِّمُ عَلٰی خَاتَمِ النَّبِیِّیْن
اَلسَّلَامُ عَلَیْکُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَبَرَکَاتُهٗ
May Allah Almighty grant you a thorough, speedy, and beneficial recovery. It is likely that your operation has already taken place; may Allah Almighty grant you relief, اِنْ شَــآءَالـلّٰـه; you will recover soon. My dear son, have patience and do not lose hope. I want to share the following advice with you:
When Sayyiduna ‘Umar Bin Abdul Aziz رَحْمَةُ الـلّٰـهِ عَلَيْه developed boils on his armpit, somebody tested him by asking: ‘Where do you have pain?’ He رَحْمَةُ الـلّٰـهِ عَلَيْه replied: ‘On the inside of my arm.’ (Ihya-ul-‘Uloom, vol. 3, p. 151) In other words, he was embarrassed to mention his armpit. Some people have a very private ailment, yet openly discuss it with people. For example, if they have an upset stomach, they may say, ‘I have loose bowel motions;’ this is improper and lacks decorum.
Some people undergo surgery involving those parts of the body which should not be mentioned explicitly. Despite this, they name those parts, without any reservations. Even if someone enquires about our ailment or treatment which relates to those areas of the body, we should simply reply with: ‘I had pain which resulted in surgery.’ If they are insistent then respond with: ‘I had some issues in a private area and it was operated on,’ then given them advice and a lesson in modesty.
Hiding your pain yields great rewards. Glad tidings of forgiveness have been given to the person who, upon being afflicted with a difficulty or illness, conceals it for the sake of Allah Almighty and does not complain about it to people. (Mu’jam Awsat-lil-Tabarani, vol. 1, p. 214, Hadees 737) People should conceal their hardships and worries as much as possible. May Allah Almighty also give me the ability to become good, conceal my hardships, and speak with modesty. Pray to Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ that I am forgiven without accountability. You are in testing and painful times at the moment; may Allah Almighty grant ease and well-being to all of us. My son, have hope and keep me updated on your health.
صَلُّوۡا عَلَى الۡحَبِيۡب صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلٰى مُحَمَّد